The first time BK's class went trick-or-treating (to the offices in the hospital that owns the school he was attending), I sent him in a costume, but didn't know to send a bag or container for collecting the candy.
Our first year of Awana was so hard ... I had no idea what the expectations were of parents. After one year of BK in Sparks, the next year he was in Sparks & LM was in Cubbies. See, even using that language confuses you, doesn't it, if you're not familiar with Awana? And I started all over again, having no idea what happened in Cubbies and what we were supposed to do each week.
But this year, he's in TNT (there's that unfamiliar language again; basically it's for 3rd - ? grades).
The first 2-3 months were almost torture for me, because I didn't understand the system (which is completely different from Sparks or Cubbies). I sent so many emails to his leader, asked so many questions in person on Wednesday nights to the class secretary... and still live with this vague feeling that we're not doing it right.
When BK entered our local grade school, I had absolutely zero clue how car line worked. I showed up about 10 minutes too early the first morning. And then when I picked him up that afternoon, I pulled up a little bit so he could get buckled, and an aide working car line immediately came and tapped on my window, explaining that I could get ticketed for stopping in that spot?!? To the school's credit, the car line rules changed this year, and there was MUCH communication about it.
Rec league sports is another area where parents are just expected to know everything.
To say I'm a little passionate about providing orientation in every area of life is an understatement. In most instances, I believe the people involved have good intentions. It's just that by definition they know what's going on, so they don't realize how little (read: zero) the rest of us know about the system.
Have you ever wished you had better orientation for a class or activity?