Friday, October 31, 2025

Speeding through the rest of the year

There are only 2 months left in 2025.  

There are still 2 full months left in 2025. 

Which perspective should I have? :) 

We have booked our AirBNB for Christmas in Tennessee. We have exchanged names on one side of the family already, and I have even wrapped 3 Christmas gifts! 

In addition to Thanksgiving & Christmas (and all the lists ... groceries, menus, gifts, cards, packing, etc. and special events), we have:

  • field work (i.e., working late six nights a week until the ground freezes to get it prepared for next year's growing season), 
  • swim meets, 
  • missions conference (very exciting!!), 
  • special events in Awana, 
  • Trunk or Treat (tonight), 
  • the annual choosing of our health insurance plan (Lord, have mercy!), 
  • the beginning of the meetings with the farm tax lady, 
  • regular monthly infusions, and 
  • surprises along the way, I am sure. 
61 days full of new mercies each morning and the Lord's presence and strength moment-by-moment.  What will those 61 days hold? Only the Lord really knows, and we can trust Him.

Thursday, October 30, 2025

1000 Gifts, Vol. 7, #67

651.  beautiful fall weather, beautiful fall skies, and beautiful fall fields!

652.  a Sunday afternoon picnic with new friends and a short hike in the woods


653.  running into a friend at swim practice and walking with her for 30 minutes or so

654.  nearing the finish line of harvest

655.  good communication with medical professionals via portal messages

656.  a warm house, warm clothing, etc.

657.  grace to forgive

658.  grace to be forgiven

659.  thoughtful questions

660.  collaboration with speech therapists

Wednesday, October 29, 2025

Ordinary Saints

I wrote the date on a check a few months ago, and immediately thought, "It's Cousin S's birthday."

When I was a child, our life was full of elderly relatives.  Cousin S was one of them. We visited elderly relatives on Sunday afternoons, and they came to formal meals in our dining room. When the water froze (as it did in the winter of 77-78), my dad took them jugs of water.  When they needed anything, my parents were there to help.  

Cousin S wasn't my cousin or even my dad's cousin. She was one of my grandfather's first cousins.  She was born in the 1800s, and died at 100 when I was in college.  

For most of my life, she was what was known as a "shut-in." Her hearing aids never seemed to work, but she always had a pleasant smile on her face, and graciously welcomed visitors.  She sat by the front window and watched my dad bring cows and calves up to the barn in her field and then take them back to our farm.  She sat by the front window and watched my mom drive up and down the road. She wondered aloud why God allowed her to live so long and not go to heaven yet.  

As she aged, our (small) church set up a meals on wheels plan a few times a week.  Eventually, one of her nieces came to stay and take care of her and her sister.  

As I have spent a lot of time since last June going through the papers left behind by numerous ancestors, I have thought a lot about the brevity of life (even if you live to be 100!) and the immensity of eternity.  

Not many people today remember Cousin S. She's not in any history books.  But she lived a quiet life of confidence in her Savior.  

And she is enjoying His presence today ... and for all eternity!

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

I posted my thoughts above on Facebook that day, and discovered many people who do in fact remember Cousin S!  I also was surprised by comments by people here in the Midwest who never met her, saying how much they loved that post. 

I will paste my favorite comment below:

Those are beautiful memories and reflections. I have often thought of how many precious people have loved and walked with Jesus that we'll never know about until glory. The family of God! 

Yes! And that comment reminded me of D. A. Carson's book, "Memoirs of an Ordinary Pastor." So many ordinary saints & ordinary pastors who make up the church triumphant!

 

Tuesday, October 28, 2025

A recent Thursday

I left at 9 for a gathering of four Moms in Prayer leaders at Panera. 

Afterwards, I sat in the parking lot and called the specialty pharmacy to order my infusion drugs, called a provider to schedule appointments four months out, and called three places regarding dyslexia tutoring. Next I left a message with my immunologist about a question for an upcoming appointment. 

While in Walmart I had a text conversation with a friend who works at a testing center and a long conversation with a dyslexia tester and tutor. 

After running 3 errands including making myself sit still to eat lunch, I picked LM up from school, swung by the post office, and arrived home at 2.45 to one of the window guys leaving. So he wanted to talk...

I spent too much time on the phone with a medical billing place asking them to update my insurance and resubmit the claim. 

At 3.35 we went to pick BK up from the bus that drops him off at the elementary school. By 4.15, we were on the road to an appointment in town. But first, BK ate a hamburger on a whole wheat bun and had a 14 ounce smoothie (homemade by yours truly), and LM ate a grilled cheese sandwich on whole wheat bread. 

While waiting during the appointment, I had multiple back and forth messages with an educational advocate. 

At 5.50, we walked in a Casey's and got two slices of pizza and a container of popcorn chicken. Obviously I underestimated my children's hunger. 

At 6.30, we pulled up in front of the door to the high school pool.  

I came home and ate (part of) a BBQ chicken ranch salad. Yum! And arrived back at the pool by 7.30 with a grilled cheese sandwich for LM ... and when we got home, BK had another smoothie. 

Zzzzz.

Saturday, October 25, 2025

Weekend dilemma

What does the word "weekend" bring to your mind?

Jim works 6 days a week.  Weekends are not restful, and, in fact, can feel long. 

On a recent Saturday, we all slept in.  I awoke naturally at 7.35.

The children and I then scrambled to leave at 8.30, dropped BK off at 9 to be in a parade with Trail Life, and then LM and I turned around and repeated our route, stopping at the ATM in a nearby farm town briefly, and then continuing on to her 9.45-10.45 tutoring in another nearby farm town.  

I went home for about forty minutes. When I picked her up, we headed straight to the end of the parade, arriving at 11.30, which is when I estimated Trail Life would be reaching the end of the route. (They were #60 of 90+ positions in the parade.) Float #30 was passing us - !! 

At noon, we pulled out of my parking spot (with BK), and went through the festival's drive-through food lane, getting pork chop sandwiches for our family & the grandparents + pumpkin doughnuts for Grandma.  

We dropped the food (& BK) off at the grandparents' at 12.40, and I took LM to a cheer clinic at the middle school, went home, took a shower (!) & rested a few minutes before picking her up at 2.30 and then picking BK up at 2.50.

I was S.P.E.N.T! After supervising the children removing all their belongings (from school & activities) from the van, I was ready for a nap.  They had 25 minutes of "educational" screen time, I did my nails, and then LM made slime.  

Obviously it was an exhausting day with lots of moving parts! (And there was not even time to drop off my trunk full of donations at the thrift store or pick up the veggies for a veggie tray I'm taking to a cookout tomorrow.) 

But the alternative would be harder.  And so I often drive all over on weekends. Want to come ride along? :) 

And our district has 10 long weekends this year!!

Friday, October 24, 2025

IEP team

I had an IEP meeting this week.  Since attending my first one nine years ago, I estimate I have sat around the conference table at least a dozen times (and at least once on Google Meets), usually with quite a large number of professionals.  

Several meetings I have cried. At a couple meetings I have been on the receiving end of unkind and unprofessional comments. The first meeting was completely botched, and despite BK's diagnosis of hearing loss (which is an automatic IEP), the speech therapist was reticent to find him eligible. (She resorted to using his frequent drooling [as a 2 year old] as one of three supposed reasons she needed.) One meeting was handled very unprofessionally ("the worst one I've ever seen," according to an adjunct faculty member who teaches IEP prep at the university level & was my parent advocate at that meeting). For three meetings I have had parent advocates attend.  Very few meetings have been cut & dry. 

I try my best to look professional.  Well-groomed & well-dressed. Makeup & nails done. And jewelry. Those things don't affect the IEP, but they affect me, and I like to think it helps the team see me as competent. (This special ed advocate agrees.)

My Nozomi necklace (made from broken pottery from the Japanese tsunami). ♥️

The OT was on Google Meets and had another meeting at the same time, so she went first.  I was impressed that she had read the eye doctor's letter with suggested accommodations, and she deferred to the team, but said she agrees with the suggestion of using cursive writing (not just learning it, but incorporating it in schoolwork). Kudos to her!

The educational audiologist had another meeting to go to, so she went next. Her main concern had to do with behaviors in the past. Everyone sitting around the table was aware of them, and we all laughed (now) at the bad memories.  Thank the Lord things have changed, so it's a go for her recommendations. 

Then we got into the nitty-gritty. The team appreciated the fact that I had read all 31 pages of evaluations & suggestions which they had emailed me in advance. I assured them they did not need to read every word out loud in our meeting! 

The rest of the meeting was perfunctory.  And thankfully I was in agreement, and only had a few clarifying questions to ask.  The evaluations in all these areas show x, the suggested goals are y, the recommended accommodations are z, the new primary eligibility is abc, everyone please sign on these three lines.  The ELA teacher left for lunch. 

And then, as we were signing in triplicate, we had conversation.  I see these people more than I go to family reunions! So we chatted. :)

I asked about a different accommodation which we don't currently need but is on my radar. It turns out there is a simple solution which doesn't even involve an IEP. I enjoyed hearing the principal's report of daily interactions with our child. I told of my recent participation in a research project for parents of a child with an IEP. The team was impressed by the research & proposed project. We talked about how every parent is different. Some come in begging for an IEP for their child who does not need one. Others refuse an IEP for their child who needs one.  

I expressed my appreciation for all they do, and mentioned that I feel like I ask a lot. They assured me that I am advocating for my children, and that's my job. Amen! Jim and I are not young, and our children, who face extra challenges, need to be equipped to live in the real world.  May the Lord be pleased to use their FAPE (Free & Appropriate Public Education) to help them thrive to the best of their God-given ability in this life.

Thursday, October 23, 2025

5 minutes counts!

5 minutes counts! That is a phrase a friend has told me many times in terms of decluttering.  I've been thinking lately about how true it is for the Word and prayer as well.  5 minutes counts!

Paul Tripp's 5-minute Bible study
-  It looks like he has done Exodus, John, OT, NT, Psalms, Proverbs, and 1 Peter.  You can watch on YouTube, listen on Spotify, or read the transcript on his website (or app perhaps).  

I'm currently doing Exodus, and enjoying using a Scripture Journal of Exodus to take my notes in.

Two Sisters and a Cup of Tea - Their tagline is, "Two sisters. In two countries. Chatting through the Bible & driving it into the heart. Over a cup of tea. And a biscuit." This is in podcast form. They have 15 seasons so far, so you could pick your favorite. Each episode is about 20 minutes.  

Sinclair Ferguson's weekday podcast, "Things Unseen," is about 6 minutes each day.  "Monday through Friday, this devotional podcast features thoughtful reflections on the Christian life and our relationship with God. Sinclair Ferguson follows a theme each week to guide you day by day in the pursuit of spiritual renewal." What's not to like about that?!

Crossway has several devotional podcasts. But the ones I'm most familiar with are their Bible reading podcasts.  On days when Jim isn't here to read the Bible before school, sometimes I play that day's Psalm a Day with Kristyn Getty on our ride to school.  

In addition to live conferences, See Jesus has some online Bible studies.  Check out their schedule here.  These are not 5 minutes, but are a great option as well.

How do you make 5 minutes count? Do you have any other suggestions for me?

Wednesday, October 22, 2025

Cloud of Witnesses, Part 10

Hebrews 11 begins: “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”  How do we keep that confidence in what we hope for & assurance about what we do not see?  

Hebrews 12 goes on to encourage us to throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. 


Do you know what encourages me to throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles?  Hebrews 12 describes it as “fixing our eyes on Jesus.” Do you know what helps me fix my eyes on Jesus? Do you know what helps me not grow weary & lose heart? Probably the same things that help YOU fix your eyes on Jesus … God’s Word, God’s Spirit, and God’s people 


I have listed in this series a FLOOD of God’s people who have come alongside me and encouraged me to fix my eyes on Jesus and throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.   What would my life look like without all of those people? Without that cloud of witnesses?


We are not meant to walk this path of discipleship alone. We need others to keep pointing us to Jesus.  


Some of the people God has brought alongside me were “just so happened” encounters. Some were intentional.  Some were a one-time discussion.  One was decades long.  God uses all of those! 


I’ll tell you what they weren’t.  Most of them were not discussions on social media.  Most of them were face to face, real life conversations. Our world is considered to be increasingly connected due to social media, our phones, the internet, etc. But I challenge you to consider whether or not you feel closer to people or more isolated?


How can you & I be ready to encourage someone we “just so happen” to encounter?  How can we be ready to encourage someone we see regularly?  Perhaps a Scripture verse we’re meditating on?  


Did you jot down names of the people in your own cloud of witnesses as you read this series? How about telling one of them that they are in your cloud of witnesses? I imagine they would be encouraged and it might help them to press on encouraging you & others.  


God’s Word says: “And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”


Lord, we want to fix our eyes on Jesus. Use us to help each other do that. We want to throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.  Use us to help each other do that.  We do not want to grow weary & lose heart. Use us to help each other not grow weary and lose heart.  We ask this in the precious name of Jesus, Amen. 

Cloud of Witnesses, Part 9 

Tuesday, October 21, 2025

Meet Day

We sort of slid into swim team.  After 3.5 years of swim lessons (minus some pandemic months), BK was struggling with motivation in swim lessons, and on a whim (or Holy Spirit leading) at the end of 3rd grade, I said, "Do you just want to do summer swim team instead?" "Yes!"

We didn't really know anyone on the team very well, and that was the first summer of the pool problems with the 50 year old high school pool. So practices were here, there, and everywhere in farm towns across our large consolidated school district. Sometimes early morning. Sometimes late evening. 

And the first meet. Well, that's a story!  I was hosting a bridal shower, so Jim took both children to a distant meet. It was pure chaos. He had trouble finding the team (knowing no one on it), forgot to apply sunscreen on BK's half-naked body, and had no idea he needed a sharpie to write all over BK's forearm.  

But, we survived! :) 

BK has completed three seasons of summer swim (and LM has completed two!) and is in his third year on fall/winter swim team (and LM is in her first year!).

I know how to go to a swim meet now.  I know how to pack folding chairs, good snacks, activities for in between events, $ for concessions, extra towels, suits, and goggles. I know to wear short sleeves in the winter for indoor meets (the stands get HOT!). I know how to write all over their arms. I know that the $13.99 annual fee for the Meet Mobile app is worth it! 

I love cheering on my two swimmers ... and their team! I enjoy conversations with other parents and the camaraderie that quickly builds among team families. It is like a camping atmosphere in the gym where we set up our chairs & wait. 

But ... it's exhausting!  We just had two Saturdays in a row of swim meets. Both were 30 minutes from our house, which is not as far as some of the meets will be.  We were gone 7 AM - 3.45 PM the first Saturday, and 8.30 - 5 the second Saturday.  I got 10,000 steps in easily at the second meet.  We sat in the gym, and then walked a long ways and upstairs to get to the bleachers when our swimmer was swimming, and then went back to the gym ... and you get the picture. :) 

Both Saturdays, I came home ready for bed! :) 

We are skipping the November 1st meet for a church event, but we have the opportunity to spend six of our Saturdays between November 15th and February 14th at all day swim meets 30 minutes to 2.5 hours away.  

Send caffeine!

Sunday, October 19, 2025

1000 Gifts, Vol. 7, #66

641.  beautiful October scenery - blue skies, bright sunshine, and golden stubble as fields are emptied

642.  two Saturdays in a row at swim meets - a combined 24 seconds dropped by BK & LM in four events

643.  answered prayer in so many areas that are not mine to share publicly

644.  a church that believes in prayer & lives as if we do

645.  Scripture journals (Seriously, check them out as a Christmas gift for that hard-to-buy-for person in your life.) Link to ChristianBook.com (The full set is 54% off for $125.)

646.  completing some home projects 


Still waiting on one item to be framed.  I was so happy to find the bamboo frame at Hobby Lobby!
I love reading Scripture in Japanese on my walls!

 
A variety ... our home states, a barn Jim's aunt painted, and one of my dad's barns that someone painted. A fort my great-great-something-grandfather built or lived at, and some photos taken by Jim's cousin.


647.  parent-teacher conferences

648.  opportunities to serve (albeit food; not classroom volunteering) in our children's schools

649.  an after-school club for BK

650.  options for so many services our children need; I keep thinking of the desolate places we drove through in Wyoming this summer, and while I know the Lord would provide, I'm thankful I only have to drive 30 minutes for services :) 

Thursday, October 16, 2025

Thursday morning

It's only Thursday, but how about a week in review? :) 

Long weekend (because that's what our school district does best apparently) with a l-o-n-g swim meet on Saturday and a full day Monday (sleep in, trampoline park, errands, home, swim practice).

Second shift has been a real doozy Every. Single. Day. I'll spare you the details, but I'm racking up 100 miles a day. 

And social / emotional health has been a real doozy, too. I'll spare you the details, but we are mentally exhausted and on edge.

The window guys have been here at all hours.  I walked out of our master bedroom and heard, "Hello, Judith." I didn't even know which guy it was or which room he was in. But they're making progress! And it looks REALLY good! (They have had to build window frames for all our windows and sliding glass door.)

I lost my senses and signed up to take dessert for 40 middle school teachers and a crockpot of taco chicken meat for the elementary school (on the same day! - remind me not to do THAT again!) AND had two parent teacher conferences (for which I did not have childcare).  (And the window guys were here while I was baking ... and killing flies...)

I spent Awana again this week on the back seat of the van with a pillow and blanket and according to my Fitbit got an hour of sleep. I needed that.

I routinely put black-out dates on my phone ... and today, Friday, and Monday are black-out dates. The first item on my phone calendar on those days is "***No appointments***." :) 

Today it is nice (& necessary due to a new prescription) to be home (& without the window guys so far) and have margin to do basic hygienic things like change sheets, do laundry (& sort it), mop the kitchen, vacuum the living room. And we'll see, but I think I might hang things on the walls (things that have been piled in a corner of our bedroom for too long).

I will also peruse front doors on the Menard's website and consider if we will put window coverings back up ... and what they might be or look like. Hmmm. 


Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Cloud of Witnesses, Part 9

Fast forward to when our son was between the ages of 3 1/2 and 6 1/2, and he commuted 70 miles each way to a school for children who are deaf or hearing impaired.  The Lord surrounded us with many people to help bear our burden during that season, but I’m thinking right now of two amazing women in our church who knew how hard our daily schedule was.  Many times during those years, they gave me a batch of freezer meals to reduce my burden. I will always be grateful that they saw a need & met it. 

A few years back, I “just so happened” to run into a friend I hadn’t seen in awhile. She asked me a question, and when I answered, she didn’t say, “Okay; I’ll pray for you,” she said, “Let’s pray right now.” And right there, with people all around us, we bowed our heads and she prayed for the concern I had shared.  


A few summers ago, an empty-nester friend and her husband were on a cross-country trip and said they’d like to visit.  While they were traveling, she called to say her husband had to fly home for a funeral, and she was driving home a more direct route, so they wouldn’t be stopping.  She had time in the car, so we talked on the phone at length. (Most of our communication in recent years had been through email.) She could feel the stress in my voice & the isolation of our life right now, and she said, “I’d like to call you every week.”  Every Tuesday at 8 AM for the past two years that phone call has been a lifeline for me.  


I would be remiss not to mention the Prayer Corps of our church.  Did you know there are teams of people praying during each worship service?  I regularly send prayer requests from our family to the church office to be shared with the Prayer Corps.  And we have seen God answer these!  Some of our prayer request are long-term, but in December, I asked them to pray very specifically for a certain request during that month for our family, and God answered in a very obvious way! 


Monday, October 13, 2025

Speaking of second shift

Speaking of second shift, how about this one for a doozy?!

Last Thursday I spent 1.12 - 2.24 on the phone with our health insurance ... while I drove to the next farm town, went in the pharmacy, picked up two prescriptions, drove back to our town, and sat in car line. Whew! (We are still not to the bottom of it. She said, "Your claims are a big hot mess.")

2.30-ish picked up LM & stopped by the post office. 

Came home right behind a tractor pulling two grain wagons! Jim was home for a quick (late) lunch. 

He left, and almost immediately the window guys showed up.  

I washed silver glitter out of LM's hair (senior citizen day at school) because I didn't think she should get silver glitter in the swimming pool. ;) 

3.45 - We left the window guys on their own, and picked up an early supper at Casey's.  I also had made a large fruit smoothie for BK. 

4.10 - We parked outside the high school, where BK was attending an after-school club.  I had asked him to come out between 4.15 and 4.30.

When he came out, we drove 30 minutes (25 miles) to his appointment ... 10 miles on straight-as-an-arrow country roads (6 of those are narrow & desolate) and11 miles on 3-lane interstate (with interstates merging on and off).

LM & I tried to: 

  • get the van washed, 
  • drive-through Chick-fil-A, and 
  • pick up a Walmart order. 

Ha! That was too much. We only succeeded in driving through a car wash. CFA traffic was backed up on two separate roads.  Walmart was running 45 minutes behind (at least). I called the store, and then had to chat with corporate.  They canceled my pickup order, refilled my cart, and I selected "Delivery," and they stated they would reimburse the express fee. 

Picked up BK, repeated our 25 mile drive, dropped them off at swim practice, and arrived home at 6.50, 12 minutes after Walmart had delivered my order.  I put the food away, made a grilled cheese sandwich for LM, put water bottles and fruit (cuties and grapes) in the van, and went back to the high school to pick them up. 

Two meltdowns later, and LM was asleep. Whew!!

True to form, my days this week have alternated between rush and rest.   

Saturday, October 11, 2025

MVP

The real MVP in this motherhood journey is ... our Honda Odyssey! :) 

It turned over 55,500 miles after 18 months of driving it (!). 

Debt Free Mom uses the phrase "Care Creates Contentment." 

At the moment there are several things we need to do to care for it. (Aren't there always?)

First up was removing the box of math manipulatives (connecting cubes) from the floor of the middle seat.  One got down into the track of the sliding door. So glad we caught that!! One time we had a Happy Meal toy that got stuck in the track of the sliding seats. It was not a cheap fix.  But it was a lot less expensive than the horror story the mechanic told me about a family who had a Happy Meal toy stuck in the track of the door ... their cost was over $1,000 (!).

Last year during harvest, as I drove a country road, a farm truck passed me, and a rock flew up into my windshield.  I had it repaired a few weeks later, but I'm not sure that it isn't growing. 

One of our third row seats will not fold back. It folds forward, but sometimes we need it to fold back and disappear.... Hmmm...

And there is a gasket for one of the sliding doors that came unattached and is sticking out at a 90* angle.  I probably should have that looked at, too.  

In the category of things I can do at home to care for our van in order to create contentment ....

  • We have kept the van EMPTY since before our vacation out west (well, minus the math manipulatives!),
  • I am washing the windows & side mirrors frequently at home with my Norwex window washing cloths  - amazing how it helps me see ;) 
Sure, there are tasks to do so our van can work better, but we are full of thanks to the Lord for protection on all those 55,500 miles!!

Friday, October 10, 2025

Language learning

When did you first learn another language? 

Latin I as a freshman in high school opened my eyes to a love of foreign languages! I had the best teacher, the best classmates, and the best textbook! We recited noun declensions and verb conjugations. I had numerous "Aha!" moments as I realized how English worked (by studying Latin!).  All the vocab I memorized definitely boosted my SAT score. :) We translated (simplified I'm sure) selections from Homer and the Odyssey.  We had quizzes with a sentence in Latin to translate and also had to answer the question: "Who said this to whom and under what circumstances?" I have discarded all my textbooks ... except Latin I and Latin II.  ❤️

I also took Spanish I and Spanish II in high school, but hardly learned a thing. (And that reminds me we had 9 weeks or so of a pilot Spanish program in middle school.) Spanish is definitely not my thing.

From 1989 - 2009 I studied Japanese in many ways, mostly through daily life, but also through 1:1 tutors, a local language school in Chiba City, four weeks at Karuizawa Language School one summer, 8 weeks of immersion at Middlebury, Vermont, and a year of Japanese II at Virginia Tech.  

It was such a hodge-podge, which means I had LOTS of gaps.  I could explain intricacies of theology and use old-fashioned biblical terms (think King James), but I didn't know the colors for years! 

This past summer, BK and I started Duolingo, and we currently have a 125 day streak.  (Some days he does chess, and some days I do Japanese, but we both use the same app on my phone.)  I am LOVING my 10 minutes a day 2-5 days a week of speaking and listening to Japanese! ❤️

Last week in Sunday School, I noticed that when I take notes, some are Latin words and some are Japanese. :) 

Learning other languages gives me such joy! What about you?

Thursday, October 9, 2025

Second shift

I recently heard another parent refer to 2nd shift of parenting, and I realized she is correct! 

2.30 - 9.30 PM is my second shift.  And it's intense.  Anything that can be done outside of those hours should be.  Dinner prep? Laundry? Errands? 

How do you make 2nd shift work better for you? 

Obviously lists. :) 

I need nutrition & hydration. If I'm going to be driving a lot, I need to eat ahead of time. (Gluten-free doesn't work that well while driving - unless it's a protein box style.) 

I'm still processing what it means for me and for our family.  

On the day I am writing this, my 2nd shift looks like:

2.25 - park next to the park near the school

2.30-3.40 - supervise LM & her friend having a play date; provide snacks & water; possibly read a book (or that might be wishful thinking)

3.40 - see if BK gets off the bus that delivers students in our town at the elementary school. (There was a miscommunication this morning & I have no way to contact him at school.) If he doesn't get off the bus, that means he stayed for an after-school club.

4.10 - pick BK up at the school (if he wasn't on the bus)

4.15 - drive to town

5-6 - appointment

home at 6.45

7.30 - LM's bedtime

7.45 - 9.30 - deep conversations with BK (or he might want to be alone)

10 - fall asleep

10.30 or later - Jim come home from a long day of harvesting

Wednesday, October 8, 2025

Cloud of Witnesses, Part 8

One of my co-workers in Japan became my best friend.  5.30-6.15 in the morning would find us speed walking over the hill and around a pond at a nearby park, covering every topic imaginable and praying for each other as well.  She poured into my life day by day for years and years. 

But there was also Julie.  One day in Japan I had a run-in with a teammate and either their sin or my sin (honestly I’ve long forgotten the particulars) left me in tears, with only moments to regain my composure before teaching an English and Bible class.  I didn’t really know Julie. She wasn’t a missionary, but she came once a week from a distance to teach art to the missionary kids, but we “just so happened” to be in the same room at that moment when I was trying to stop crying.  And Julie spoke words of grace & truth to me.  I’ve long forgotten what she said. But I’ll never forget how seen and heard I felt, and how Julie ministered to me, a virtual stranger.  

And there was a distant co-worker whom we only saw once a month.  One Sunday when he showed up, I was feeling down, and he said, “Judith, do you still believe God is good?” “Yes,” I replied.  He asked his second question. “Do you still believe God is trustworthy?” “Absolutely,” I replied. And he said, “That’s enough.  If that’s all you can hold onto, that’s enough.” I can’t tell you how many times I have thought of that conversation and been comforted by that foundational truth of who God is.  

Tuesday, October 7, 2025

Time Audit

I'm always intrigued, when I read old CIM (China Inland Mission) missionary biographies, by the logs they kept of how they used their time. That's great accountability when you're on a remote mission station with just your spouse or a co-worker. And I imagine it was helpful for many reasons.

How did I spend my day yesterday? 

7.45 - 8.30 tidied the van, kitchen table area, living room, and TV room [Note: none of the items lying around were mine...] and put 3 boxes for the thrift store & 4 boxes for the homeschool resource center in the van

8.30 - 8.55 - got ready for the day

8.55 -10.05 - Zoom with a U of I Ph.D. student interviewing parents of children with IEPs [Truly exhilarating stuff!]

10.05 - made our bed, did DuoLingo, and then pulled everything out from my two bathroom cabinet drawers and my medicine bin & sorted and organized (one huge trash bag later...) [and I did something else I can't remember...]

12.30 - ate a bowl of Honey Nut Cheerios with yogurt when Jim came home for lunch

1-1.45 - on phone with insurance [There are some things that just aren't right, and despite at least weekly phone calls for the last 6 weeks, I finally reached a CSR who will not stop until she gets to the bottom of it.]

1.45 - 2.10 - swept the kitchen, vacuumed our bedroom, the upstairs hall, and the living room [This is the most housework I have been able to do in 4 years! Thank you, Lord, for medicine and answered prayer!]

2.10-2.20 - find, address, and stamp a 99th birthday card and three sympathy cards [all of these were quite overdue]

2.20 - leave to pick up LM, drive to the next town to get a prescription, 

2.40 - our 18-month old Honda Odyssey turned over 55,500 miles [No, that is not a typo.]

2.40 - field a 10 minute phone call from insurance, stop by DG, they didn't have cottage cheese, so we drove back to our town 

3.05 - a few big fat raindrops hit my windshield and I exclaimed, "Praise the Lord!" [Still praying for a gentle rain]

3.10 - went to DG in our town, to the post office, & to the park to wait on BK's bus [LM played & I wrote the messages on the cards] 

3.40 - picked up BK, drove by the post office to drop the cards in the box

3.50 - help each child in turn with their Awana homework, scan & e-mail LM's audiogram & APD test results to the school IEP team, and sit down to rest

4.50 - wash the airfryer basket & cook supper (pork chops, mashed potatoes, and frozen vegetables)

5.40 - leave to drop the children off at swim practice 

6-7.15 - unload & load the dishwasher; make a dozen egg bites for breakfasts

7.15 - leave to pick the children up from swim practice

8.30 - ZZZ

Monday, October 6, 2025

Calendar Confusion

I remember the exact moment and location when I started putting appointments in my phone calendar. Until then I had carried a pocket calendar and matched it with the wall calendar in the kitchen.  Now I match my phone calendar with the kitchen calendar.  (Perhaps I need to put a Skylight Wi-fi calendar on my Christmas list so we can sync all our calendars? For our schedule is sure to only become crazier before it slows down.)

Last December, I decided that December would be a blackout month.  And I put "No appointments" on every day of my phone calendar in December. 

When I caught up on all my medical appointments after school started, and at checkout they would say, "I can schedule your 3-month follow-up on December x or y," I opened my calendar to that date, and replied, "December doesn't work for me. Could I schedule it in January?" [Of course that means my January will be full...]

This week I realized another flaw of using a digital calendar.  I can't see the big picture.  If I could see that Tuesday & Thursday are really busy that week, would I add something on Wednesday? 

Perhaps, 2026 will be the year I return to carrying a pocket calendar! :) 

Any tips for reducing calendar confusion?

Sunday, October 5, 2025

1000 Gifts, Vol. 7, #65

631.  protection during the drought & heat & all the combine & field fires in our part of the state

632.  precious prayer by Jim's dad for his sons as they harvest

633.  Friday night gas station pizza with the grandparents on a night during harvest 

634.  hope of some new treatment that might help some pesky symptoms

635.  hope of some answers for my fatigue

636.  progress on the window project ... sigh!

637.  getting some long overdue decluttering projects done since the house is in disarray anyway

638.  my mom's great progress - daily hour of PT or OT + seeming back to herself after her June 5th fall & two surgeries (& accompanying anesthesia)

639.  ice cream :) [It helps on a Saturday night during harvest when children miss their dad & a wife misses her husband.]

640.  networking in the Body of Christ to help meet a need for a loved one a couple states away ~ The Body of Christ truly is a small world!

Saturday, October 4, 2025

Last Week

Friday afternoons are HARD transitions around here. I knew we were facing a 3-day weekend (our district has ten - count them - ten 3-day weekends this school year + Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break!!). 

So, I came up with a Saturday plan. First, we used free Chick-fil-A breakfast cards that were handed out at a local parade a few weeks back. We went next door to Target to make a return and get 3 items.  We went next door to Aldi. While I shopped, the children had a cart, a budget, and a print-out from the rescue mission's website of most needed groceries.  They were 98 cents over budget!! Then we drove a few blocks to the back door of the rescue mission, rang the bell, and waited for a staff member to come out with a grocery cart.  

The children and I do that once or twice a year as something tangible they can participate in in our giving.  It has been eye-opening for them, and they both have a tender heart for homeless people.  

LM rode in the combine a few hours.  Jim worked until almost 11 PM. 

Sunday was normal ... Sunday school, church, lunch, rest, play or nap, and then the children enjoyed 3.5 hours with their aunt, uncle, and cousin while we went to small group. 

Monday was another long day looming ahead of us.  We met friends at a local pumpkin patch from 9.45 - 2.15.  It was 90*F, and we stayed about an hour too long. BK spent a couple hours on the farm.  Monday night was swim practice. 

Tuesday I had an appointment in the city west of us with my rheumatologist, and did a little shopping.  BK rode the bus to Grandpa's while I took LM to the city east of us for speech therapy at the university clinic. There was a make-up swim practice since Thursday's was cancelled due to a home meet for the high school team.  I felt like I drove a million miles and wasn't home all day.

Wednesday I had an appointment in the city west of us with a new specialist.  

Wednesday was kitchen day. Before school I put a roast in the crockpot & made a pitcher of iced tea.  After my appointment I did a trial run of pumpkin dump cake (which I have signed up to take to the teachers in a few weeks) and made a pan of hash brown casserole and made a salad. (Recipe here.)

In the afternoon LM had tutoring before we went to Awana & prayer meeting. 

Thursday I had a hair appointment, and the children had an appointment in the city east of us. Swim practice was cancelled due to a home meet for the high school team. 

Friday my infusion meds arrived.  

The window guys were in and out (mostly out) at unannounced times. Jim was working late 6 days a week and nursing a combine engine that repeatedly caught on fire (smoldering not flames, but still!). And I'm behind on all my big projects plus things I need to do for my mom.  

And now it's time for another weekend.

Friday, October 3, 2025

One morning in my home

:: a few weeks ago ::

Even though I got 8 hours of sleep, I woke up exhausted, and was still exhausted after coming home from taking the children to school. 

I went back to bed and had a phone call with my mentor.  

Then I slowly started moving.  Since I had nothing on the calendar (Yay!!) and I had done all my regular chores yesterday, I could work on projects.  

I removed a half-bookshelf from the kitchen.  All we need at the edge of the counter near the table are the children's Bibles and Awana books.  Everything else disappeared. :) 

In the process of filling a donation bag, I opened a cupboard and found another item on the list for the missionary family's furnishings.

After lots of trips taking things from the 1st floor to the 2nd and some things from the 2nd to the 1st (!), I finally took a shower, put a roast in the crockpot for supper, and sat down to pay bills around noon. 

Today was a progress day. :) 

My mind has long lists of more progress I want to make (bathroom cabinets, Shutterfly books, etc.), but I will take today as a win!

Thursday, October 2, 2025

Lion or lamb?

I have seen this circulating on FB, and maybe you have also. It's written by a Brian Drinkwine, about whom I know nothing except he has a website here: https://briandrinkwine.com/ 

Our pastor is fond of asking us to examine whose kingdom we are building. I have found that to be an excellent check (in so many areas).  Balance is hard, and I know believers have had differing opinions from the beginning of Church history until now. May we love God first and love our neighbor well. 


post from FB:

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***If you follow Jesus and you saw Charlie Kirk's funeral yesterday, please stop what you're doing and read this post. As a pastor, I simply don't think we're seeing the whole picture.***

Yesterday, Charlie Kirk’s memorial service was broadcast to the world. Eighty thousand people packed into a stadium, millions more watching online, numbers that rival the Super Bowl. The sheer scale reveals something: this is bigger than politics. Charlie’s death has become a defining moment for the American Church, exposing the deepest fractures in our faith.
While I missed parts of it because it overlapped with our service, I watched most of the service. There were several moments that I found heartwarming and moving. In fact, I found it quite beautiful. And the sight of worship music to such a massive audience was just awesome.
But I also felt an uneasiness about it, as I knew that so many people weren't watching it, not because they don't love Jesus, but because for them the service was not a symbol of hope, beauty, love, or the gospel of Jesus. These people love Jesus, see the Bible as utterly authoritative over their lives, and I would consider them spiritually mature and biblically astute. Yet for them, the service was something else entirely.
And here’s the hard truth: we are not all remembering the same Charlie Kirk.
For some, Charlie was a hero: calm, articulate, respectful in hostile territory, unflinching in his defense of Christian values. They saw a committed Christian, a faithful husband, a caring father, and now, a martyr. Their grief carries pride, even hope, that his death has awakened a movement of “little Charlies” rising up.
For others, Charlie was a threat. His words carried wounds, his rhetoric stoked fear, his nationalism blurred the lines between Caesar and Christ. For them, celebrating Charlie rings hollow. “Little Charlies” don’t sound like hope, but like a nightmare.
How can Christians have such vastly different views of the same man?
On one hand, it has a lot to do with the worldview we already hold, the paradigm through which we interpret everything. On the other hand, it has a lot to do with the news we watch, the voices we allow to shape us, and the algorithms that carefully curate what we see until we live inside an echo chamber.
It's easy to flatten someone into a caricature, a black-or-white symbol of good or evil. And when tragedy strikes, our simplicity bias tempts us to point fingers, assign blame, and reduce complex people into one-dimensional heroes or villains.
So don’t gaslight the other side. You have an algorithm, too. Instead of focusing on why they’re wrong and you’re right, consider what might be missing from your echo chamber.
And so, as Charlie was laid to rest, two very different memories were on display. Some saw a uniter, others saw a divider. Some saw a lamb-like faith, others saw a lion-like rhetoric. And the truth is, both can be true at the same time.
There were two moments at the funeral that stood out to me the most:
The first came when Charlie’s widow, Erika, stood through tears and forgave her husband’s killer. Her words rang out with such grief, but such heartfelt authenticity: “The answer to hate is not hate... The answer we know from the Gospel is love, and always love. Love for our enemies, and love for those who persecute us.”
"I forgive him," she declared, as she sobbed. Eighty thousand people stood on their feet, cheering through tears. That was the lamb. The Spirit of Jesus. The echo of the cross.
But then came another moment. Our President stood before the same crowd and declared: “I hate my opponent, and I don’t want the best for them.” And again, the stadium erupted. That was the lion without the lamb. The roar of empire, cheered by those who had just applauded the cross.
The Bible repeatedly uses lion and lamb language to describe the Messiah. One symbolizes strength and power. The other, innocence and sacrifice.
When Jesus touched down on earth, everyone wanted the lion. They wanted the Messiah who would take Rome by force, crush the oppressor, and establish a throne of power.
Instead, Jesus showed them something radical: He had the lion’s power, but He chose to lay it down. He gave them not the lion they demanded, but the lamb they desperately needed. They wanted a lion. He gave them a lamb.
They called him "meek," which isn't weakness. It's what happens when you have the strength to bring down worlds, but the resolve to lay it down for the very people who hate you.
Here’s the test of true faith: it’s not the lion cloaked in the lamb's clothing that reflects the heart of Jesus. It’s the lion willingly cloaked in the lamb’s sacrifice.
When the same crowd can cheer forgiveness in one moment and hatred in the next, it tells us something uncomfortable: the two Charlies we all see are really a reflection of the two natures inside each of us.
One nature is capable of lamb-like forgiveness. The other is seduced by lion-like strength to endorse hatred.
It’s a testament to the war within us, between our new identity in Christ as sons and daughters of the King, and our old nature still marred by sin and shaped by empire.
Empire thrives on sides. It needs enemies. It feeds on blame. It demands we pick “us” or “them.”
But Jesus doesn’t play the blame game. In Luke 13:1–5, when asked to explain political violence, Jesus refuses to assign fault. He says instead: “Unless YOU repent, you too will perish.”
"Wait, me? What do I have to do with anything? I'm not the shooter."
And yet, Jesus wants us to stop pointing the finger and look in the mirror.
The word repent there is metanoia: to change allegiance. To reorient your whole life around a different King. The word for perish? It doesn't merely mean to die. It implies that you've wasted your life in the wrong kingdom.
Empire asks: “Whose side are you on?” The Kingdom asks: “Whose King are you under?”
And here’s the tragedy of our moment: many Christians are convinced that we are in a battle to reclaim the soul of our nation. They don’t realize it’s not the soul of our nation we should be most concerned about. It’s the soul of the Church.
Make no mistake, we currently have two very powerful parties that are spending billions to disciple you into believing their empire is the side you should take. Don't buy it. They don't deserve your allegiance. Only Jesus does.
As heartwarming as it was to watch political figures and influencers speak of their faith, invoke the name of Jesus, and quote Bible verses at Charlie's memorial service, I also saw a disturbing number of times where people used us-vs-them language, language of fighting, uprising, and waging war. It was odd to see so much genuine talk of faith and the gospel mixed with language that is utterly antithetical to the gospel of the Kingdom.
But when Tyler Bowyer, the chief operating officer of Turning Point Action, told everyone there that they had successfully brought “the holy spirit to a Trump rally," a dream of Charlie Kirk's, I just have to wonder, is that really the best way to describe this? Did we actually bring the holy spirit, or did we just appropriate the holy spirit to endorse our political rhetoric?
Some are saying Charlie’s death has awakened millions of little Charlies. But let’s be honest. That’s not what we need. When a person who saw Charlie as a hero hears that, it sounds like good news. But for those who experienced his words as a threat, it sounds like an apocalypse.
And if we love Charlie, it’s tempting to gaslight the pain of others. But the Kingdom calls us to resist that temptation, to look them in the eyes and say: “You’re not alone. I’m not your enemy. I’m here with you.”
We don’t need millions of little Charlies.
We need millions of little Jesuses.
That’s literally what the word Christian means: “little Christs.” It began as a slur. A mockery. And yet it became our identity.
What if, instead of multiplying culture warriors, the Church multiplied lamb-like disciples of King Jesus, self-sacrificial, enemy-loving, cruciform followers, marked not by demands to enthrone Him in Washington, but by confidence that He already reigns in heaven.
There are people on both sides of this issue: in the Church, in your neighborhood, maybe even in your family. And as followers of Jesus, the only way forward isn’t to erase those divisions with empire logic. It’s to unite around the Jesus the world thinks it knows, but clearly doesn’t: the Jesus who welcomes every tribe, tongue, and nation, the Jesus who breaks down the dividing wall of hostility, the Jesus whose love eclipses every partisan slogan and outlasts every political empire.
So where do we go from here, now that the funeral is over? (I did it with 3 "R"s because... I'm a pastor)
First, I suggest doing what Jesus told us to do: repent. Not just of bad behavior, but of misplaced allegiance. This isn’t about feeling sorry. It’s about shifting your loyalty from Caesar + Jesus to Christ alone. Stop giving your heart to parties and pundits. Change your mind. Change your direction. Change your King.
Second, resist. Don't focus on resisting the "other side." Instead, refuse the bait of outrage. Refuse to clap when leaders preach hate. Refuse to let algorithms disciple you into echo chambers of fear. Say no to empire’s false urgency, and yes to the slow, patient work of love.
Third, re-center. Anchor your identity not in political movements, but in the crucified and risen Lamb. Remember that you don’t fight for victory. You live from it. Jesus already sits on the throne. The question isn’t whether He will reign. The question is whether you will live as though He does.
Because here’s the truth: Jesus is both lion and lamb. But He wins not by roaring louder than His enemies, but by laying down His life for them. Empire celebrates strength. The Kingdom celebrates sacrifice.
And the Church must decide, in this moment, which story we’ll tell.

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

Cloud of Witnesses, Part 7

And then I spent 15 years as a missionary in Japan before meeting Jim.  So many in my cloud of witnesses are from those years.  

Starting with Rev. I, a Japanese pastor who faithfully planted and pastored a small congregation for decades, and at age 78 has just now gone to a new city to plant a new church.  He and his wife are two of my heroes!  


There’s a hymn we sang often in Japan: 


Thy way, not mine, O Lord,

however dark it be;

lead me by thine own hand,

choose out the path for me.


Smooth let it be or rough,

it will be still the best;

winding or straight, it leads

right onward to thy rest.


I really encourage you to look up this hymn ("Thy way, not mine, O Lord)”. It is such a great hymn, and there are 7 verses.


In general the Japanese aren’t known for being emotionally expressive, but every time we sang that hymn in a worship service, I saw tears streaming down the faces of Japanese women.  I can think of dozens of Japanese women who are your sisters and my sisters in Christ who are following Jesus no matter how hard it is.


Cloud of Witnesses, Part 6